Create & Change

How Creating Boundaries & Changing Our Habits Can Foster A Greater Sense of Wellness

Achieving a true sense of wellness starts with asking yourself an important question: “Are my boundaries hurting me?” If the answer is yes, ask yourself this next question: “Are they too tall or not tall enough?” In life, our boundaries are everything. They help us determine if our actions are valid, if they’re too extreme, if they’re too passive, or if our behavior is acceptable or unacceptable. In addition, our boundaries determine if we do too much, or too little, without ever finding that perfect sweet spot.

You may not know it, but understanding how to create new boundaries and change our habits is all it takes to foster a stronger sense of wellness in nearly all areas of your life. Once you master your boundaries, you can move on and continue on a path towards happiness.

First, how did we learn these unhealthy boundaries?

As children, we learn from a young age that we’re often rewarded and punished based on how well we are able to perform as it relates to expectations. This can be seen throughout schools, at home, and in friendships as we continue to grow up. Almost always, our brain is focused on meeting expectations of others, instead of meeting our own expectations and finding true happiness – anything else would be considered “selfish” behavior, right?

We are taught to deny and sacrifice our own happiness, our own identity development, our personal evolutions, and our self-realization to live up to the expectations of others. However, we have to remember that the power to create and change lies right within our own hearts. Once we find it, we can put it into practice.

Create & Change

Learning to create new habits and change from your old ways can be challenging at first, but once you set yourself up on a path to succeed, there’s no turning back! It’s essential for us to create some space between who we think we are – which is informed by our upbringing, the expectations we’ve been forced to meet, and the ways in which we’ve been sculpted and molded by our experiences – and who we really are – which lies deep beneath the surface of our skin and in our minds and hearts. Once we do that, we can gain a stronger sense of control and authority over our thoughts, our behaviors, and our happiness.

Most importantly, you have to remember that your boundaries are decisions that only you can make. In addition, you have the right as a human to choose healthy boundaries that you can apply for nearly any situation or experience that you’ll ever find yourself in. And most importantly, when you find yourself in those situations, don’t ever discount your own needs.

Enforce Your Own Boundaries

Remember, only you have the authority to determine your new boundaries. And once you do just that, your job is to enforce them. It may take practice at first, but it’s important to remember that when you enforce your newfound boundaries in life, you’re exhibiting your ability to control your life in the present moment.

And since you devised your new boundaries right from within, from your heart, and from your mind, you can rest assured knowing that you’ve taken yourself on a journey of liberation and out of the limiting space of obligations and expectations. And when you’ve done that, you’ve set yourself up for a lifetime full of happiness and wellness.

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